On speech

Hey, it's me again, doing my best to actually "blog" "regularly" (insert canned audience laughter here). So, you might wonder, what's she on about this time? Well, folks, this time I'm talking - er, typing - about speech and the treatment of NV (nonverbal) people. I'm going to start by admitting that before I did …

My favourite things about being autistic

So, recently on placement I was asked a question I've never been asked before in the 28 years I've been alive. An SLT turned to me and asked, "What's your favourite thing about being autistic?" I was floored. My favourite? I'm used to telling people the hard parts, of course, because that's what they're (naturally!) …

Cassandras and Cassanders

Or why this website (fed through DoNotLink, because fuck giving them a higher search result ranking) made me really mad. [NOTE: Mentions of abuse, ableism, violence, and school shootings etc.] Before I begin, I suppose I should preface this by saying that if you're in a relationship of any kind with somebody with ASD and …

Experiences in Online Dating

Granted, I've only been doing the whole online dating thing for a little bit, but it's been... an experience. I've made no secret on this blog that I'm not fond of dating advice aimed at autistic folk, since it basically tends to boil down to stuff like this. Obviously, all this advice has its place! Of …

What’s It Mean? NT

I recently dropped the acronym NT into a conversation with a fellow autistic person on a dating app (yes, I'm online dating now, but that's another story for another day) the other day, upon which he revealed he had never heard the term. Oops. I feel like it might be a term that some people …

On Labels

Well, I recently (...fairly recently!) talked to my mother about being on the spectrum, and she told me that I was diagnosed when I was 2 1/2 years old, not 4 like I'd previously thought (although my diagnosis was never kept secret from me... Maybe I had four stuck in my head because I used to have …

Asexuality (Again)

[CONTENT NOTE: Discussions of (a)sexuality, etc. Slight mentions of abuse in the second article I link to.] Hello again, everybody! Now usually I'm a pretty placid person (insert canned audience laughter here) but I recently saw a post that made me so annoyed I swear my eyes rotated far enough back into my head for …

On Turning 27

(CONTENT NOTE: Mentions of suicide here and there. So if you don't want to read this, I won't blame you!) Yep, as of Monday the 3rd of December, roughly 1:01 AM, I will be 27! This means that, according to a study I found (note: uses "high-" and "low-functioning" as terms, mentions of suicide) technically I'm …

Shutdowns

I feel like a lot has been written on meltdowns - and that's fair, because from what I remember of having them, they can be startling to witness and stressful to experience. However, I've seen a lot less on what I call - and what I've seen others call - "shutdowns". The way I think …

Spectrum

Well, I suppose I should start this post by apologising once again for how long it takes me to do anything. And secondly, I want to share something. I'm asexual. So that makes yet another spectrum I'm on, aside from the ASD spectrum, haha. Ash (of the very informative and engaging Ash Rambles - seriously, …